Friday, October 29, 2010

My Son Made Me Do It!

Facebook has put me in touch with out of town relatives, keeps me in touch with my kids (even when they're in the same house!) and most recently, brought me a new client. Who also happened to be my high school sweetheart, once upon a time!

Boyfriend & Girlfriend "Fred" and I met when we worked at the same store. We dated, grew up and grew apart. He eventually married "Marge", who also worked at the store, and I eventually married "Raymond". We'd all run into each other throughout the years, the last time being in 1993, when my son was still in a stroller.
 
Fast forward to this past summer. That same son (who is now visiting colleges...yikes!) was asking about my first job. We started talking about Fred, and I decided to look him up on Facebook. Fred wasn't there, but Marge was! My son said, "Add her as a Friend, Mom!" At first I hesitated, but I really wanted to know how they were doing after all these years. So I did it.

I hit the "Friend" button!

A few days later, she accepted my "friend invitation" and we started chatting. And she's a wonderful girl woman. Fred couldn't have picked a better wife!!
Then last month, she wrote and said they were thinking about moving, and asked if I could show them a house they were interested in. As soon as I calmed down about seeing my old boyfriend again after all these years, I got excited about having my very first Facebook client!

So we looked at the house, they fell in love with it...and bought it!

Thank you Facebook, thank you to my son, and a 

 HUGE THANK YOU to Fred & Marge!! 

May you enjoy many, many years in your new home!


Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Everyone Can't Be In Your Front Row

I've been reading a career-related  self-help book lately ("Endless Referrals" by Bob Burg). Some of the ideas I can wrap my head around, but many of them just don't sound like "me". You know what I mean? Too salesy and scripty (is that a word??). But this morning as I was merrily reading along, taking notes and figuring out what fit my way of doing business and what I should file away under "Not My Style", I came upon page 215, paragraph 5. To paraphrase:

"...we become like the people with whom we associate."

I love that! I have something hanging on my wall next to my desk, introduced to me by my daughter's boyfriend's mother. I'd like to repeat it here...as a reminder to us all that we are the only ones we can control...and we should choose our 'associates' wisely:

Everyone Can’t Be In Your Front Row
 
Life is a theater so invite your audiences carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a FRONT ROW seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, friendships, fellowships, and family!  

Everyone Can’t Be in Your FRONT ROW
 
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?  Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are just going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse?
 
Everyone Can’t Be in Your FRONT ROW  
 
The more you seek God and the things of God, the more you seek quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of God, the more you seek things honorable, the more you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the BALCONY of your life.
 
Everyone Can’t Be in Your FRONT ROW
  
You cannot change the people around you…but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the FRONT ROW of your life.
Remember that FRONT ROW seats are for special and deserving people and
those who sit in Your FRONT ROW should be chosen carefully.
 
Everyone Can’t Be in Your FRONT ROW
 
– Author Unknown

Top 10 Tips To Take The Stress Out Of Homebuying!

Below are my Top 10 Tips To Take the Stress Out of Homebuying!
Buying a house should be fun, not stressful. As you look for your dream home, keep in mind these tips for making the process as peaceful as possible.

1. Find a real estate agent who you connect with. Home buying is not only a big financial commitment, but also an emotional one. It's critical that the REALTOR® you chose is both highly skilled and a good fit with your personality.

2. Remember, there's no "right" time to buy, just as there's no perfect time to sell. If you find a home now, don't try to second-guess interest rates or the housing market by waiting longer - you risk losing out on the home of your dreams. The housing market usually doesn't change fast enough to make that much difference in price, and a good home won't stay on the market long.

3. Don't ask for too many opinions. It's natural to want reassurance for such a big decision, but too many ideas from too many people will make it much harder to make a decision. Focus on the wants and needs of your immediate family - the people who will be living in the home.

4. Accept that no house is ever perfect. If it's in the right location, the yard may be a bit smaller than you had hoped. The kitchen may be perfect, but the roof needs repair. Make a list of your top priorities and focus in on things that are most important to you. Let the minor ones go.

5. Don't try to be a killer negotiator. Negotiation is definitely a part of the real estate process, but trying to "win" by getting an extra-low price or by refusing to budge on your offer may cost you the home you love. Negotiation is give and take.

6. Remember your home doesn't exist in a vacuum. Don't get so caught up in the physical aspects of the house itself - room size, kitchen, etc. - that you forget about important issues as noise level, location to amenities, and other aspects that also have a big impact on your quality of life.

7. Plan ahead. Don't wait until you've found a home and made an offer to get approved for a mortgage, investigate home insurance, and consider a schedule for moving. Presenting an offer contingent on a lot of unresolved issues will make your bid much less attractive to sellers.

8. Factor in maintenance and repair costs in your post-home buying budget. Even if you buy a new home, there will be costs. Don't leave yourself short and let your home deteriorate.

9. Accept that a little buyer's remorse is inevitable and will probably pass. Buying a home, especially for the first time, is a big financial commitment. But it also yields big benefits! Don't lose sight of why you wanted to buy a home and what made you fall in love with the property you purchased.

10. Choose a home first because you love it; then think about appreciation. While U.S. homes appreciated an average of 5.4 percent annually over from 1998 to 2002, the past few years have been a challenge. Ultimately, a home's most important role should be to serve as a comfortable, safe place to live.
Over the next several weeks, I'll take each tip and go into a bit more detail.

Hope this helps!!